I have spent the last year plus training in Layla Martin’s VITA tm methodology, which combines traditions from ancient Tantric teachings that Layla studied for years, and combines it with the latest in neural science. Traumatic experiences imprint most heavily on our bodies and deep in our brains for a reason. This system of threat response and somatic memory is meant to ensure our survival and the survival of our species. Often our early experiences imprint the most heavily on us, and they can operate under our conscious radar, and keep us stuck in unhealthy relationships with ourselves and the world around us, including in our partnerships.

Pleasure is the next most powerful memory building experience. You only need to read the headlines to see that drug addiction, gambling addiction, technology addiction and even porn addiction play into that same threat/reward system. Dopamine addiction which is at the heart of all those things I just listed, is really what we crave as humans. Quality social interactions, the affections of a loved one, belonging and even everyday pleasures or fitness can give us the same dopamine releases. So with this idea in mind the VITA methodology can teach you how to tap into your own pleasure, literally change your brain and your body’s response to your own actions, find pleasure and sensuality in everyday things like a soothing hot shower, a sunny walk with your furry friend, a delicious meal, a quiet and restorative meditation, good music and so on. Even creating art in all its forms can give you pleasure. I can teach you this method, guide you through the tools to get in touch with what resonates with you the most, find your own body’s inner wisdom and strength, learn to love yourself and trust your instincts, validate your own sexiness, and even learn about your own sexuality in the safest way: with self pleasure. I let you guide our sessions we find your deep desire and I present the tools I have learned that I believe will serve you best. Some or all or even none of that work can include sexuality. It’s your journey and I am here to serve you.

With that said: It’s time to close the orgasm gap! We have been taught that our bodies are not as orgasmic as men through media, religious groups, family sex education and even perhaps subtly or even directly from doctors. We have been made to believe that the male orgasm is the center/goal of all partnered heterosexual encounters.

Fact: Women have more orgasmic potential than men. I will teach you about your own body, you may be shocked from the things you will learn, I can give you practices and help you uncover your truth in your own sexual power that you will do in your own home/space. All practices are done in the privacy of your own home, with detailed instructions and support that you will learn from our sessions. You can share as little or as much as you want. There is no “right” way to do this, and my role is one of support, championing you, challenging you to achieve your goals and desires. Let’s find your natural beauty, your natural power, your natural yin/yang forces and let’s see how much of you there is to learn to love and accept. You are so beautiful, and so deserving of love and acceptance, trust me, you are!

However you identify as yin or a woman, you are welcome. Even if you were assigned a male identity and want to explore your feminine side, we all have yin AND yang energy according to Tantra. Let’s explore, you are perfect, just as you are and let’s find the woman in you, if that is your desire.

Women of all ages, in general, have what is referred to as the “women’s wound,” or “sister’s wound,” where we don’t believe fully in ourselves, we feel shame about parts of ourselves thanks to media, religion, family messaging, we feel unworthy, undesirable, unlovable or even unable to ask for what we want that is our birthright. I will offer guidance so you may find those blocks, contractions, sources of pain and fear or limiting beliefs, and offer practices that may transform them into areas of strength, acceptance, empowerment and tools to help you shed what others may have put inside you that does not belong to you which limits you. The VITA methodology believes that passion and pleasure can heal, and open us to parts of ourselves that offer strength and wisdom. I believe education is a powerful tool. It’s my greatest honor to work with you in service and in safety at any age, 18 and beyond. All of you is where you need to be in this moment and you are perfect. Welcome.

If you are beginning peri-menopause, struggling in it or even in post menopause, I am at the very beginning of menopause officially myself and I will also be beginning to study the VITA Major of Life Transitions, which will prepare me to further help women in this magical time of our lives. No, this end to our reproductive years does not have to mean the end of sex or sexiness, quite the contrary. I will share the latest in science, share resources with you, and offer you breathwork and practices that may ease some of the symptoms and encourage you to explore this time as a time of pleasure, growth, expanded creativity, thriving and new beginnings. Let’s connect.